Tim Freke uses the term “lucid living” to describe a state analogous to lucid dreaming but lucid living is the balance point between our mundane life (the “dreaming” state) and a state of higher consciousness. Ram Dass states that the highest mother, student, therapist, lover, &c. is the most conscious one. So, what is conscious living? What are some attributes of a person who is living lucidly or consciously? Here are some initial thoughts.
Conscious living is …
- … not letting my mind, thoughts, or eyes wander when someone is speaking to me.
- … not focusing on what I want to say next to the exclusion of listening to others.
- … not letting my mind wander to work, blog posts, &c. when playing with my daughter.
- … being in the present and not the past or the future. This pretty much sums up the three ideas above. If I’m playing with my daughter, I’m not working or writing so any work or writing that I may think about is either in the past or in the future. If I’m concentrating on what I’m going to say next in a conversation then I’m focusing on the future and not the present in which the other person is speaking.
But with that short list, I’m realizing two things: 1) that I don’t really have much of an idea what conscious living is and 2) that I have more questions than answers.
If I’m at lunch with a friend and he’s talking (as happened a few days ago) and I get a text, do I look at the text? It’s most likely my wife who is wondering where I am since lunch is taking longer than either of us expected. This dilemma seems trivial but I think it represents a much larger class of dilemma that exists because of technology. Cell phones that we carry around with us all the time make it possible for the “present moment” to span physical space. If I did not have a cell phone, my wife could not be “present” with me at lunch because she is not physically there. But a text message from her can bring her into my present moment with my friend. So, I have the dilemma of being conscious with my friend and his conversation versus being conscious with my wife and acknowledging her text. Of course, the same questions arise with email, phone calls, &c.
Is multi-tasking not conscious living? An email just came in for me and I checked it on my phone then came back to this post. Again, this is a representative of a larger class. Say I’m on the clock writing code and a thought pops into my head about a blog post or an idea for a writing project or whatever. If I am living consciously, do I take a few moments to move over to my personal computer and start a draft so that I don’t forget the idea? Should the thought have even come into my head in the first place? Is conscious living synonymous with completely focused, one track thinking?
Not acknowledging another human being seems to be a very unconscious act. So does that mean you have to make eye contact with everyone you pass while walking down the street? But what if you live in NYC? Are you really supposed to make eye contact with everyone?
As I’m working on this post, it’s getting harder and harder to concentrate and to write and I’m feeling a lot of resistence. My initial reaction is to save the draft and come back to it later. But I know that there is a large possibility that I’ll never return to it because it’s difficult. It’s difficult to think about these things and come to realize how unconsciously I am living right now, how much work I have to do on myself. So, I’m going to publish this post as-is, un-finished, mid-stream. Please leave some comments about what you think conscious living is. Perhaps some interaction will lighten my load a bit and help me get back to the self-inspection that this topic needs. I will, hopefully, some back to this topic and write more later.
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